In my conversations with clients, i invite people to give attention to who benefits from problems, conflicts and troubles that people have in life. This particular invitation gives us opportunities to look at problems from an unexpected angle that we possibly won’t pay attention to.
When shedding light on this angle, i notice people begin to view their problems differently. I believe sometimes expanding people’s view on problem- whatever it may be-, and looking at conflicts and troubles from unexpected angels bring new possibilities to people that wouldn’t have been possible otherwise.
Regardless of problems – from personal to international- let’s try to see problems/ conflicts from unconventional angles; let’s make effort to search for ‘absent but implicit’ in people’s intentions; let’s have conversations that fit with people’s cultural and belief systems and let’s not impose our traditions of thinking and beliefs on others.
Tahereh Barati, M.A, RMFT