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Relational definition of Joy!

03 Sunday Feb 2013

Posted by Tahereh Barati, PhD in Articles, Reflection

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connecting moments, connection, happiness, happy life, have a fun joyful life, joy, make a better life, reflection, relational definition of joy, relationships, social cultural contexts, state of joy

Human beings are taught to seek, make and have a ‘better, fun, more fulfilling and happy life’. We want to be happy and experience joy in life. We seek every avenues to make ourselves and our loved ones happy.  But what is a ‘better fun fulfilling joyful and happy life’? Who defines these notions?

We don’t live alone, we live in relationship. We socialize and learn from our families and peers. We are influenced by our social cultural contexts. We try to adopt, accept and, at times, question definitions given to us by our social networks. We want to make sense of things, ourselves and our experiences.

I am wondering how often you practice to step outside of your social cultural contexts to give some thought to notions such as joy, happiness and fulfillment. Michele Foucault says  “… We should fight against the impoverishment of the relational fabric …. Rather than arguing that rights are fundamental and natural to the individual, we should try to imagine and create a new relational right that permits all possible types of relations to exist and not be prevented, blocked, or annulled by impoverished relational institutions”….

Do you think it is possible to view and re-view these concepts outside of impoverished social norms and institutions? What do you have to defy to create or co-create your own relational definitions of those concepts?

Fun, joy and happiness don’t exist by itself, they are in relation to other things. Their meanings are related to what we give value to. To me, these notions are names to experiences of ‘genuine connection to self, others and nature’. My relational definition of these concepts might be different from yours because we might value and locate sources of ‘joy happy life’ in different places.   Therefore, each relationship may need to identify its core vlaues and define these notions in its own relational context.

It is not easy to become fully aware of our different states of being. It is not easy to differentiate between what you may call as ‘happy fun joyful life’ and what society may call as ‘happy fun joyful life’. The ability to step outside of our social norms may allow a creation of new meanings.  This ability may lead to further self-knowledge, self- awareness and consequently enhance our critical thinking.

The state of Joy is one of the notions that could have many various meanings to any of us.  To shed some light on the process of defining this notion relationally, I would like to invite you to reflect on the following questions:

  • What is your relational definition of ‘fun happy and joyful’ life?
  • Do you see ‘connecting moments’ as  part of ‘fun joyful and happy life’? Why?
  • Does remembering your ‘connecting moments’ bring joy to you?
  • How often do you remember your ‘connecting moments’ in life? What effects does it have on you, when retelling stories of connection?
  • If you were going to describe your ‘joyful connecting moments’ by using imagery, What would it look like?

Happy possibilities and Have a joyful life,

Tahereh Barati, M.A, RMFT

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